Love is Listening
Every Friday · 2:00–5:00 PM · Starting 9 October 2026 · IDR 350,000
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Love is Listening
There are moments when we know something in our lives or relationships isn't quite working, even when we can't explain exactly what it is.
Perhaps you hold back what you really want to say. You seek approval, avoid conflict, over-explain, withdraw, or find yourself repeating familiar patterns. Or perhaps nothing is obviously wrong, but there is a desire for deeper connection or greater authenticity.
Often, we look outward for the answer. Love is Listening begins somewhere else, with a simple question:
What is actually happening within me?
How We Relate Reveals Something About Us
Every relationship creates an opportunity to see ourselves.
Someone doesn't respond as we expected. We feel misunderstood, attracted, uncomfortable, rejected, challenged or deeply connected. Something happens outside of us, and something comes alive inside.
Often our response is immediate. We withdraw, defend, accommodate, explain, control or protect ourselves before we have even recognised what is happening.
These responses aren't necessarily wrong. Many are patterns developed through our lives — ways of maintaining connection, finding belonging or protecting ourselves.
But when we can see a pattern, something new becomes possible:
Choice.
Authentic Relating Meets Shadow Work
Love is Listening brings together practices from Authentic Relating and shadow work.
Authentic Relating invites us to notice what is happening within ourselves and between us — becoming curious about assumptions, owning our experience and listening without immediately needing to fix, change or interpret another person.
Shadow work brings attention to aspects of ourselves we may have learned not to express: anger that felt unacceptable, vulnerability that felt unsafe, a boundary we struggle to voice, or fear of rejection beneath a desire to please.
It can also reveal qualities we haven't yet given ourselves permission to embody — confidence, tenderness, creativity, power or the capacity to take up space.
Together, these practices create a simple movement:
We listen to what is happening, notice what arises and recognise the patterns that may be influencing us. Awareness creates the possibility of choice — and choice can change how we express ourselves and connect with others.
- 01Listen
- 02Notice
- 03Recognize
- 04Choose
- 05Express
- 06Connect
- 07Integrate
A Living Laboratory
Love is Listening isn't about learning the "correct" way to relate.
The workshop becomes a living laboratory for human connection.
Through practices that may include movement, conversation, eye contact, silence, play, consensual touch, boundaries, individual exploration and shared reflection, our natural ways of relating can begin to appear.
What happens when someone really sees you?
What happens when you want to say no?
What happens when you feel attraction, discomfort, judgment or vulnerability?
Do you disappear? Perform? Please? Control? Explain? Protect? Move toward? Move away?
The exercise itself isn't the destination. What the exercise reveals is the practice.
Come As You Are
Every Love is Listening workshop is shaped by the people in the room and what emerges between them. Sometimes that may be vulnerability or resistance. Sometimes laughter, playfulness, discomfort, tenderness, boundaries, silence or unexpected connection.
You don't need experience with Authentic Relating. You don't need to understand shadow work, consider yourself spiritual or be particularly good at communicating.
You simply arrive as you are and become curious about a question most of us rarely have the opportunity to explore:
How do I actually relate?
Curiosity is enough.
With Gratitude
Love is Listening has been shaped by many experiences, teachers and practices. The facilitators particularly honour Dayna Seraye, ART International and the wider Authentic Relating community for developing, practising and sharing this body of work.
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